Keeping Your Wife Out of the Mud

If Christ's love is a purifying love, and if a husband is to love just as Christ loved the church; a husband's love must also be a purifying love. A man should be willing to do whatever he can to prevent his wife from being contaminated by sin. A man should never lead her there. Can you imagine Christ eve doing that? "Come, take my hand, and I will lead you through the mud." How ridiculous. Christ would never do that. Why would a husband? He never would if he was loving his wife as Christ loved the church.

Nor would true love ever compromise her sexual purity before marriage. That defiles rather than purifies. Fornication is sin, and sin defiles. The old line that guys trot out to use on girls that, "If you loved me, you'd let me," doesn't prove love. It proves lust. The real truth is, as the girl should respond back, "If you loved me, you wouldn't ask." That's because true love is selfless, not selfish. True love looks out for the best for the other, not what is best and most pleasurable for me. It would never compromise the purity of the one it loved.

Nor will true love ever betray a trust. It won't flirt with the secretary at work. It won't look at Internet porn. It won't have an affair (That's a sanitized name for adultery). It would never make the wife feel rejected or not good enough to satisfy you by turning your attentions somewhere else. That tempts her to retaliate with an affair of her own, or to gain her validation as a desirable woman form some other man. She needs that reassurance that she is desirable and attractive - that she is someone worth your affection and desire. If she doesn't feel it from you, she will look elsewhere - and that is defiling. You must fight against any defiling of your wife's purity. It is your responsibility, men.